The 5 C’s of Love, Sex and Marriage
Speaker Notes
John 2:1-11
2.1 On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, 2 and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. 3 When the wine was gone, Jesus’ mother said to him, “They have no more wine.”
4 “Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come.”
5 His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.”
6 Nearby stood six stone water jars, the kind used by the Jews for ceremonial washing, each holding from twenty to thirty gallons.
7 Jesus said to the servants, “Fill the jars with water”; so they filled them to the brim.
8 Then he told them, “Now draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.”
They did so, 9 and the master of the banquet tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He did not realize where it had come from, though the servants who had drawn the water knew. Then he called the bridegroom aside 10 and said, “Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now.”
11 What Jesus did here in Cana of Galilee was the first of the signs through which he revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.
1. Covenant
2. Communications
3. Community
4. Crucifixion
5. Christ himself
A Severe Mercy by Sheldon Vanauken
The misunderstanding of most couples has to do with their understanding of vows. They think vows, perhaps, are an expression of their feelings; a confident prediction, as it were, of what they would feel, in high and holy ecstasy forever. So of course “till death do us part” - nothing else could possibly happen; of course “forsaking all others” - have we not found each in the other incomparable perfection. They were utterly sincere. They believed their prediction. As Lewis said, “love makes vows unasked - it can’t be deterred from making them.” But it is the promise of Eros, of eternal “in-love-ment”, that makes the vow no more than a prediction. They do not understand that the vows are a promise - their promise to God as well as each other, for the times when they’re not feeling the ecstasy of “in-love-ment”. No vows are necessary for those in love; nothing can separate them but force. The vows are a gift from one to the other, not a protestation of love. That’s what they don’t understand. Here and now, they are saying each to the other “This is my promise. This you can trust. This you can lean on in the bad times, as long as life shall last. Whatever I may feel at any given moment, I will be faithful. You have my word.”
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